I didn’t want to say “I love you” because that was reserved for when I met The One. guy isn’t wrong, and it’s not necessarily his fault.

If he’s a normal male, he was conditioned into this through his upbringing and doesn’t even know it’s going on with him.

One said he'd been "in a cocoon." The other explained he gets "buried under life." Around that time, a friend's love interest told her he'd been MIA because "when life gets crazy, I just hit stop." We listened and felt empathy, and we carried these reasons to our nay-saying girlfriends, the ones furrowing their brows and going "You haven't seen him in long?

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But unless a guy is kicking puppies or otherwise exerting overtly asshole-ish behavior when you first lay eyes on him, you can't instantly tell he's an asshole.

(The scary truth: Assholes look just like the rest of us!

For me, the moment my relationships got hard, I’d have a very hard time showing my genuine interest, so I put on a fake smile and said things were fine.

But inside I was truly losing interest mostly because I didn’t know how to deal with the relationship challenges. The only thing I ever owned was that I didn’t want to call her my girlfriend.

"I still have guys in my life who I feel will 'pull out of it' and realize I'm the best thing ever and come running," Michelle admits.

These six tips on how to emotionally detach from someone you care about will show you how a healthy detachment can help you retain a sense of yourself in a relationship.) "When you first meet somebody, typically there aren't huge warning signs — people are on their best behavior," Davila says."It takes a little while to see someone's true colors and to find the right person." And BTW: No one is asking men to open up and become more emotionally available. Those sweet, friendly, emotionally available men you passed up because they had weird mannerisms or bad facial hair or a resemblance to your ex — they probably think emotionally unavailable. There may be stagecraft at work here: Some women might say, "Oh, he was just emotionally unavailable," to avoid the larger truth that maybe he just wasn't that into them in the first place.I think it's a similar attitude, only it sounds less aggressive and more adult to label the person 'emotionally unavailable.'" But it's a cipher … Look, some men really are emotionally unintelligent — bad at expressing their feelings and hopeless at caring about yours.(Our collective definition of masculinity might be partly to blame.A change in the status of their emotional availability seemed days away. These dudes were literally telling us they were not about to meet our needs, and we used it to justify sticking around!